Mutual Understanding

Hey all, 
Today's topic is mutual understanding...every relationship requires a different type and level of understanding.   But understanding is definitely required...especially with your closest friends....and by mutual understanding I mean understanding between two people so that they can discuss their problems openly instead of telling others about it...for eg. if two friends are in a tiff then they should sort is out and discuss their problems openly, instead of getting to know about the problems from other people..and if there is no mutual understanding the friendship won't last, personally I have experienced this so if you voice a different opinion of your friends let them know about it, because if they get to know from others, they would be completely shattered...and if your relationship is special and of value to you then, hold on to it, but not tightly, and don't stretch it because it may break...


Surabhi 

Father's Day !

Hey all, 
Yes, this post is specially for father's day which is on 17th June and it is a very special day for me because even though I don't always say it I really love my dad and obviously every child has a very special attachment to their father especially the daughters....My last post was on giving back and I hope you are doing it..Also this day is not only for our fathers but also for our grandfathers and I feel really lucky and proud so have such an amazing grandfather who has always helped me and whenever I go to his place I have loads of fun...the small things that I do with him...like watering the plants, going to the deer park, going to the rose garden, eating ice cream... seems very special to me....so I really want to thank you for always being there for me and supporting me...and correcting me if I am wrong....
There have been many special moments in my life that I have spent with my father, I remember all of them, and without his support I couldn't have done anything...I remember as a child I would study maths with him and when I wouldn't understand and start crying, he would always comfort me and clear all my confusions teaching me so nicely....and the best gift he has ever given me was to take us (our family) to Dubai for 2 years, and I got the opportunity to study in such a good school and explore myself...it was all because of him...thankyou soo much....and celebrating my 15th birthday at 12:00 and there is just sooo much more...eating popcorn, watching old movies, making french fries and playing Sudoku !! There are soooo many things, but thankyou for each and every one of them Dad and Grandad !!!


Give it a thought:
We understand the value of things before getting it and after losing it....


Song for the day:
Hear you me- May Angels lead you in--Jimmy Eat World
Youtube link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5KPu7QhYY_0


Fact for the day:
Leonardo Da Vinci invented the scissors..!!!


Luv,
Surabhi :)

Giving back

Hey all :D

Hope you all have been fine....well, even though I have loads of holiday homework to do and tuition homework also, I am feeling happy because I just came back from my grandparents house and I enjoyed myself a a lot...well enough of me...but I would really like to thank my a very special follower of this blog Akriti, for the amazing facts she has sent me :D Thank you :) 

Today's topic is "Giving back" ! Now I don't know whether you have figured out what this means but I will explain this in detail with elaboration. Ever had this feeling that when someone does something special for you and you feel like you haven't done anything for them...okay it sounds a little confusing...okay let me give you all an example, now say that your mother wants to spend quality time with you but you aren't really interested so you just make an excuse and get out of it...now that happens with many of us teens but we don't realize that those moments that they want to spend with us won't come back and it might not be important to us but it may be extremely important to them...so this is all that I want to say that what may be trivial for us may be someone else'e life...so when I say about giving back, all I mean is that think about these type of situations where you have acted selfish or rude...and try and solve them by finding solutions, having loads of fun with them and spending time with them....now this my make us feel extremely guilty and all but mostly its not intentional, its just that in these years we seek separation from our family which is pretty normal so its okay !! take a chill pill :P 

"Giving back"  give back to your grandparents, parents, siblings and all those who want to spend some time with you.. I hope you understand what I mean to say...thanks and have fun...keep reading 

PS: also would like people who read my blog to become critics and really tell me about the topics that I should take up and discuss with remarks 

Thanks

Give it a thought:

Spend time with those who deserve your time :)

Song For the Day:

Baatein kuch ankahee see Movie: Life in a Metro 

Youtube link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cj7P7W3jDxM

Fact for the Day:

J and Q are the alphabets not in the periodic table :) 

Surabhi :D 

Misunderstandings

HEY ALL !!!
I am in a totally rocking mood and I haven't felt this good in a really very long timeeeee.....I have been smiling since morning and now its midnight and I am still smiling :)) I couldn't have been this happier :D And you won't believe it, nothing has happened...literally nothing but I am feeling soooooo glad and I just can't express this feeling....listening to happy songs, watching videos and enjoying myself, I mean I really feel contended ! Okay, I am a person who talks a lot and stuff, but I haven't talked as much as I do since morning....
So yeah, enough of me and my mood, hope you all are liking my posts, I mean I am writing frequently and today's topic is Misunderstandings! Yes 1 really very important topic that I want to discuss, which tends to become the problem in most or our lives, and in all kinds of relationships....be it family, friends or special people in our life...we all have misunderstandings with them and many times we don't even realize that we misunderstand things which complicates others lives and mostly our own life !!! So I wanna really tell you all that if you are confused or feel that there is a misunderstanding between you and someone, clear it out as soon as possible :) It will be better for you. Now many times the person is not willing to listen so then in that case you could really write a small note expressing your feelings and what you think, what the problem was and also that you want peace! Many times this could also lead to violence (slap (thappad vagera) ) and this will be really very difficult to accept insults like this....and in that case all you could do is that blow with the wind or come clean and apologize :D That is the best way but only if you are right; but if you are wrong then in the end you will be feeling really guilty...

The better option is that you shouldn't let these misunderstandings occur....and one way to get rid of them is don't lie and just be yourself...I guess that should do the deal :)  

Give it a thought:

In the above pic :)

Song of the day: 

School ke din- Movie: Always kabhi kabhi 

 Youtube Link:  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9ucxpbiankA

Fact for the day:

Shakespeare invented the words "assassination" and "bump" 

Crying?

"Crying is not a solution for anything! Stop Crying !" This is something we often hear, and it really pesters the person who is crying...this line forced me to think why we cry and why do people stop us from crying?? Infact I believe that crying actually helps me...it lets me take out all my emotions at once...in simple words we cry because when something or someone hurts the heart tears come in our eyes and we cry ! The reason why people stop us from crying is that when we cry, our eyes grow weaker, pale and dull...we become sad and depressed which affects our health....but from an emotional point of view crying is also essential because you cannot take out those emotions that you can take out if you cry ! It makes you feel light and although it has more bad effects than the good ones crying once in a while is normal....Not crying at all is also bad and crying all the time is even worse because that means you are not emotionally strong...and if you often cry alot you need help, be it your parents, best friend or someone else...If you don;t cry at all, either you don't want to see reality or you accept your life exactly the way it is that means you are not affected by it.

Give it a Thought:
Crying lets your emotions flow...


Song of the day:
Rasputin- By:  Boney M 
Youtube Link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D6P_nitWCRc


Fact for the Day:(NEW !)
"Underground" is the only word in the English language that begins and ends with the letters "und." 

Choose your words wisely..

Hey all,

Hope you're doing fine because I am doing fair...holidays have begun and there is so much to do....and time is less :P In any case, today's topic is choosing our words wisely and its something very important...I just want to tell you all that...everyday we say stuff and especially people like me say so many things in a day to different people at different events....but one thing must be made sure that what we say should actually be meant....I mean to say that we should try and avoid saying things we don't want to say or things that shouldn't be said because these things that you may say casually or in anger or in any extreme emotion could leave a deep mark on peoples feelings and I have repeatedly said that everyone's feelings are equally important as yours and you don't have the right to hurt anyone....ofcourse this could happen unintentionally but its better if its avoided...so think about what you say, and if you really mean it you could change the way of saying it so that a person does not get hurt..and is not disturbed bu your comments...

Keep Smiling and Keep thinking 

Also you could write to me at surabhi_rp2@gmail.com for any queries or advice...and you can subscribe to my blog, just write you e-mail on the subscription bar and you willl get all posts on e-mail...and its FREE :P .

Thought For The Day:

Sometimes it takes a good fall to really know where you stand ! 

Song of the day:

Rigga-Ding-Dong By: cherona 

Youtube Link:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3f43xmRqxOM&ob=av3n

Forgive and Forget

Hey all,
I'm back and today's topic is forgive and forget...you know what I just realized that if you ever want to be happy in your life you must learn to forgive and forget, which basically means that you need to forget your past, all the mistakes that you have made and the problems that have happened with you need to be forgotten and only then will you be satisfied. You must also learn to let other people forget. for instance, if you and your friend had a quarrel over something...and your friend might want to forget it, but you keep bringing it up....this just turns your friendship sour....and eventually it will turn bitter....so if you want the person to forget the you yourself must forget it...
Forgiving...one word that can just your change your mood instantly...haven't you ever felt open when you sorry and the person forgives you...isn't the feeling incredible...you feel so light and relaxed....Same way if you forgive a person who apologizes to you, you feel calm...remember one thing saying sorry doesn't mean that it was your fault...it only means that you value your relationship with the person more...Similarly forgiving someone for doing wrong means that no matter what the person has done you like person for his courage and acceptance...
So I would like you all to think it over and just chill chill just chill :P 
And yes I am also introducing a  section called song of the day which will be basically describing my mood , it will be a good song :P 


Give it a thought:
Forgetting things and forgiving people go hand in hand...

Song of the day:
Right Round Right Round --by FloRida ft. Kesha (its an amazing song) 
Youtube Link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=li3zdZ9FmY0


Surabhi :)

How to patch up with your friends....SOLUTION is here...

Hey all , 
I am back after a really long time but I had my exams so..I was studying and according to me I scored better than last time :P ....The year has ended and now I am going into 10th grade...just can't believe it ! A lot of things happened this year which were unexpected and shouldn't have happened but had to happen and I am glad they did because without them, I wouldn't get to know about so many things and I would never have believed it unless I experienced it so I guess it was necessary..So always think that whatever happens happens for the best, you may not realize it when you are in a particular situation but after some time when you think about it, all you can do is realize...and also learn to apologize because I have learnt that even if it isn't your fault and you apologize, you feel great, and you should apologize because you care for the person more than the person cares for you....basically because you care for your relationship with the person and that is what makes you a nice human being...This year I made so many friends and my friendship bond with them became stronger...with some weaker....some I can trust as always...some I don't have the courage to trust..some I can talk for forever...some I don't feel like talking to, some I want to talk to but they don't want to talk...so yeah there are all kinds of people and all kids of relationships...so learn to adjust with all of them...


If you are having issues with any of your friends from a long time here is a solution...
STEP 1...just think about what you want
i.e., you first need to sort in your mind that what kind of a relationship do you want to keep with the person, if you really care about the person and want to still be friends then carry on with the following steps...
STEP 2...try to figure out the problem
i.e., think about the problems you have with the person, the issues you have and don't lie to yourself...because if you do this will not work at all. 
STEP 3...find the solution to the problem
i.e., after thinking about your problem, think about what YOU can do to solve it....and one of the biggest solutions is talking to your friend...so just talk it out with him/her. 
(talking out might not be easy but if you want to save your friendship then you have to do it)
Tell your friend all the issues you have with him/her and most importantly let go of your PAST which means let go of your fights and misunderstandings with your friend only then will you be able to start fresh.
STEP 4: If you feel differently for him/her and have changed your opinions for your friend, tell him/her because of this change in you, you will obviously behave differently...you might not be able to see it but others can and probably that is the reason you are having problems with your friend...
STEP 5: If you feel that you friend is wrong tell him/her the reason...and your friend might also tell you what is wrong with you, take it positively and don't keep asking for examples for everything your friend says...because it is not right to do so...let your friend finish and then ask her to reason out and besides asking her everything think about it yourself...
STEP 6: Do not fake yourself and do not say what is not needed....reveal you thoughts and feelings for your friend and I am sure all these steps will work
STEP 7: Follow these steps with a calm mind and this may take some time so be patient....but it will always work...and yes your friend might be expecting you to do it, you just don't know, so there is no harm in doing this exercise...


ALL THE BEST :D


Surabhi :) 

My poem for you :D

Hey all,
Its me again :P and I am in kind of  mixed mood but I know most of you who read my blog would have known by now that I love love stories and love those kind of movies and romantic novels etc and I write poems on emotional kind of topics but I want to share this poem with you, I think its my best work and its a 100 line poem ! Long I know :P
    This poem is titled "Was that friendship? Or was that Love?". When I used to sit down and think about how people fell in love I would think of friends becoming best friends and then falling in love and those who are still confused. It is most commonly said that a boy and girl can never be best friends and this might be true or not but in most cases one of them ends up having feelings for the other. So this poem is dedicated to those who are confused and I hope after reading this poem you will surely realize your true feelings. This poem is basically a conversation between two best friends the pink lines are the girl's line, the blue lines are the boy's lines and the red lines are the lines both of them are saying :D
And yes I am not writing the whole poem altogether because it is long and besides there should be some suspense. :P

Was that friendship? Or was that Love?
That everything rose right above.
A space you created in my heart, 
Our friendship could never fall apart.
Walking together and holding each other's hands,
Me talking any other guy you can't stand.
We love talking and being together,
Even though we completely differ.
You never mind me talking on and on,
And never ever yawn.
I feel incomplete without you,
And I know you feel the same, that is true.
You are so good at everything, 
Just like my prince charming.
My heart you have stolen,
Like you there is no one.

So yeah this is it for today but i will continue the poem tomorrow :) and if you feel any of these for your best friend, you just might get to know the truth :P

Keep Smiling and keep writing and commenting
Surabhi :)

Opportunities

Hey all,
I am really sorry for not writing since a long time and couldn't even wish you all HAPPY NEW YEAR.......may your new year go as fantastic and fun as ever......soo its been a really long time and I hope you all are fine and crackalackin :P 
So today's topic is opportunities, and I am going to try and figure out do opportunities always come once? 
hmmmm.....we have always heard that opportunities always come once and you should grab each and every one of it....but i think that if you do get various opportunities you must be clear in your mind first, whether to take it or leave it..also, you must remember that you can't be good at everything and you can't have everything in the world, so leave something for others too...also you may get many options and you could pick any one of them so try and choose not only the best but something you haven't done before...also don't make the mistake of taking all so that you can't manage and you tend to lose out on other things such as studies, fun and your life...we say that we need to keep a balance in nature so there should be a balance in our life also....a mix of everything :) 
Opportunities may also come only once so if you don't have something up your sleeve, try and take the challenge, you will feel fresh and there will be a change in your attitude and life. Also taking part in various competitions can help enhance your communication skills and give you exposure which prepares you for stuff you will do when you grow up.
So my advice is that you take the ride even if it is bumpy, it will surely be entertaining and fun :)


Give it a thought:
If you want to make sure or realize who is special in your life, then try and stay without that person for one week, if you succeed then that person is ordinary but if you can't then that person is very special....try it out, it works :D 

Give it a thought:
Past is experience, Present is experiment and Future is expectation...so use your experience in your experiments to achieve you expectations....
Surabhi

Priorities..

Hey all,
I know I am writing after a long time but I think today's topic is really very important and essential for every teen..
Priorities...Yes ! We as different individuals have different perspectives and different thinking but a person has to get their priorities straight.Sometimes you may think that your priorities are different from your peers but don't forget you are different as individuals so naturally your priorities will be different from them.Everyone is unique and has a different kind of thinking.
Basically setting your priorities is not really an easy job but still right now is the right time when we set our them and if we don't set them straight it will get complicated in the near future. Setting your priorities in simple language means that you are basically listing your necessities in the most important order and the one at the top has most importance...but how to figure out your priorities and how to list them is the job.
STEP 1: List down all those things which are really very close to your heart
STEP 2: Try and put stars to the most important things in your life.
Okay so I took this psychology test and I guess my answers were quite accurate and I got my priorities straight to an extent. Just answer 1 simple question...
Q: Just put these animals in order
1. Cow
2. Sheep
3. Pig
4. Horse
5. Tiger




After you have done just check out the results:
Cow= family
Sheep= love
Pig= money
Horse= career and job
Tiger= Pride

So now I do believe you got your priorities straight
Thats it for now

Keep Smiling
Surabhi :D

Problems...

Hey all,
I know no posts since a very long time..but I have been busy and guess what I'm 15 now :P I turned 15 this 7th of November and I had an amazing time at school on 8th November :D celebrating with all my friends and having a great time and realizing loads of things.... :D
So I an really sorry for no posts......
Today's post is on Problems...in this span of time I realized a few things a learnt a lot...at certain points in life you may feel you are that one person who has so many problems and is only one suffering from the problems of the world but you do really need to understand that you are really not the only one. There are many more people who have issues in their life, and graver problems than you actually do or even think of.....So just try and remember one thing that if you are having problems from which you can't get your mind out of then don't worry there are definitely solutions to them....because remember to every problem there is a solution...just find the reason behind the problem and you will surely find the solution.
If you are having family problems, and your family is suffering at this age such as mine, just try and focus on your studies. I know it really be difficult be just try and distract yourself and share your problems with your parents and your best friends, because they will always help you and think for your good :D
And if you have any other problem and want solutions, you can also contact me, just write a comment, or e-mail me at surabhi7rp2@gmail.com and remember i wont share your problems :D

Also if you do read me blog, please follow this blog so that I know that you actually like it and I can write more, and if you do like this blog, please spread the word around to your friends :D

Surabhi
Keep Smiling

Mausam..

Hey all, 
I know it has been a really long time since I wrote something. But today's post is really very special. It's actually a review on a movie I saw and since I have seen it I'm in love with it. Its a bollywood movie called "Mausam" . Mausam means seasons and this movie basically depicts the seasons and various stages of love between a girl and a boy. In this movie the main protagonists are of different backgrounds. This story is about two lovers named Harry and Aayat. 
The first stage:
Harry and Aayat first meet as mere adolescents and they develop feelings for eachother. Harry, a fun filled Punjabi boy of a village in Punjab, starts liking Aayat a Kashmiri girl when she comes to his village.
The second stage:
Due to reasons they separate and after 7 years they meet eachother in Scotland and this is where their liking develops into true and inseparable love. 
The Third Stage:
The stage where they separate again and realize that they love eachother to such an extent that they cannot be separated and cannot live without eachother.
The Fourth Stage:
This is where they finally meet, fighting through odds...


All I can say is that this is destiny...
And I would definitely recommend for you to watch this movie...
The title especially is very beautiful and the depiction of scenes is very beautiful and different. It isn't the same love story but very unique, heart throbbing and a must watch.....


Give it a thought:
Excessiveness of everything leads to nothing but devastation...

express...

Hey all 
EXPRESS YOURSELF !! let the other person know what you think about him/her..if you don't tell the person, the person will only misinterpret and there will be a creation of misunderstandings...show the person you care, you love and you want to be an important part of the person's life...unless and until you don't tell the person won't know anything because nobody has the power to read minds.....so EXPRESS YOURSELF AND YOUR EMOTIONS............and gather that COURAGE ! 


SUrabhi

its important....

Hey all, 
Sometimes in life, you have certain relations and those relations can be good, bad, strong, weak, healthy, annoying or everlasting. We humans make mistakes, and we tend to confuse these relations with the above adjectives...what you thought doesn't always turn out to be what you thought. 


Relations are like rubber bands, you keep stretching and one day they will break....stretching here could symbolically represent pushing the other, fighting with the other too much or anything for that matter which is happening excessively and just as smoking is injurious to health, this excessive pushing, fighting, misunderstandings could lead to problems in the relation or even the relation not staying....and it wil reach a dead end....this relation is also applied on friendship...

Give it a thought:
A girl's heart is like glass, you throw small stones from less distance, it doesn't affect the glass, only gives scratches, but if you throw a bigger stone from a distance, then ultimately the glass breaks....

Solutions..

Hey all,

Sometimes you feel happy and then suddenly your mood changes and you start feeling sad and our mood keeps changing....these constant changes are called mood swings and all teens experience this....ever tried to wonder why our mood changes so frequently in the weirdest of situations. Well the answer to this is that every teen reacts differently towards every situation..just like everyone has different thoughts and different ways of expressing yourself.One aspect of our constant changing mood is this:


Dealing with constant change and pressure is part of the answer. Maybe you're starting a new school and not able to see old friends as much. Getting good grades or wanting to be better in sports or other activities can be a concern for many teens. It might feel as though there just isn't enough time to do everything.


there might be various other reasons for this constant changing mood but, the one above is the most obvious and common one. 


To get over depression and sadness here are 5 fantastic ways:
1.Try exercising
2.Try eating chocolate or something that you love eating
3.Try to identify why you are feeling this way and fix it by talking out 
4.Try and express yourself...try writing a story, poem or just your everyday diary with your feelings in it.
5.Try to be optimistic and think positive because only if you think positive you be positive :D


Surabhi :)

Change...

Hey all, 
Accepting something you haven't expected in your wildest dreams is not an easy job..because you never hoped for it to happen in the first place. And its normal, but the challenge is to accept it, it will take time but never the less if it has happened then learn to accept it and move on. Acceptance is the key to most important decisions and acceptance and rejection is a very major and important part of life....and that is called change!

Sometimes, in our lives we experience change and at the teen stage it is quite common to be confused as to what  change is right or wrong, or why that change is happening and if it is happening then is it good or bad ! At times you feel that everything has changed and it is never like it was before, people have changed, you have made new friends and this new environment is completely different compared to what is was before, but I guess its like, as we grow we change , our taste changes, our choices change, our friend circle changes, and moreover our interests change, but that is change is common with everyone and every teen is a part of it and sometimes that change proves to be very useful and helpful. But the question is how to decide whether the change is good or bad and is it right or wrong.... 
After a lot of brainstorming :P... I think the one and only way to identify it, firstly you need to identify the change in yourself and your environment before you can decide if the change is good or bad.
After you have decided and identified the change then just TRY and imagine your life, before that change came into being...............and after you have imagined your life without the change, TRY and imagine your life with that change. 
After imagining both....try and analyse....think whether your life with the change was better or without the change is better and you will automatically know whether the change is good or bad...
TRY it out 
It will work....


Surabhi...

Figuring Yourself Out...

Hey all,
I know 2 posts a day but I really feel like writing today and I also have a holiday and I haven't really talked to any of my friends since everyone is so busy...so I thought I should write..
Have you ever had trouble figuring yourself out? Well, if you are a teen then I am sure you must be going through this just like me or any ordinary teenager :P
And it may just seem so irritating and boring and you may feel helpless but hey all you teens, it happens with every other teen and truth to be told me too! Figuring yourself out could be what you like or what you want or what you should like or whom do you like...and today I will try and answer as to how we all are going to do this.
To figure out what you like to do, try doing something which is extremely common for today's teens, which is filling in a slam book, or answering just some basic questions on your personality, for eg:
What is your favourite colour, what do you like to eat, what is you favourite hobby, what do you like to do in your free time, who is you favourite actor/actress or what is your favourite sport, who are your best friends who is your favourite subject, who is your bestestestest friend forever i.e., the one you never want to lose and to make it more fun take out pics and make a collage and keep it as your wallpaper for few days
well, these are only some basic question there are many more to go...
To figure out what you want, first see what you like and from that what do you really have and what all do you thing is missing? that's one of the best ways...
To figure out what you should like, you should really know how to differentiate between what is right and what is wrong and that is when you decide what you do next...
To decide whom you like, well no one can decide that because as I said earlier no one can control feelings, be it theirs or others and one thing I can definitely tell you with full confidence that you must have a very strong and trustworthy friendship with that person and if you are confused about this then ask one of your friends to notice your behaviour in front of that person you think you like and you will soon get a confirmation if your friend says you are not you in front of the person.

Figuring yourself out is not something that happens in a click, it will take time but for you to know yourself you should start now because the sooner you begin the more you will explore...
And if you still persist any queries then you can just e-mail me at surabhi7rp2@gmail.com or just comment and to keep your privacy, change your name and don't worry I won't tell anyone :P

I wanted to just say something, I also haven't fully figured out myself and I am still trying but all the advice I give works and if it doesn't please let me know..
Surabhi

Decisions part 2

Hey all, 
Yup, today's topic is decisions..I know what you are thinking that I have already written a long and lengthy post on decisions but this post is just another sequel. Firstly I want all those of you who like happy ending movies and love love stories to watch the movie "a cinderella story" if you haven't watched it...its an old movie but its definitely a must watch :P and the songs are just superbly fantastic and fabulously amazing.... :P

Yeah, coming back to decisions, my earlier post gave you a good message on decisions and briefed you up well perhaps, but this post is just based on a little more elaboration :P 
Sometimes in life when we make our decisions, whatever decision it may be and whatever kind of decision it may be, we must be sure that those decisions shouldn't be such that they cause you to break your decision. Only promise yourself about making the decisions if you are ready to take on the challenge of carrying them out and that you won't leave them in between. And since we all know that just as one path leads to another path, one decision leads to several other decisions which we might have to take considering the circumstances. So while dealing with an issue and making its decisions you must make sure your decision is right, because it shouldn't be that you made the wrong choice and because of that one choice you made, you have to suffer all your life. The solution to stop this from happening is that before taking a decision make sure that what you are doing is right and if you want you could consult your parents or your "true" best friends because they would never want what is wrong for you...trust me !
Taking decisions for someone, is not something I would recommend because, every person should know what is best for them and unless a person makes mistakes a person can never learn...but those mistakes shouldn't cause devastation or destruction so this is when you need to take advice.
Taking a decision with someone could also be done provided that someone supports your decision because no one wants to be forced, just like no one wants to get into forced friendship or forced relationship. 
Taking a decision for you which includes people should not really be against the people, it could affect them but it should not harm them, they could probably hurt them but only if the decision is very essential. 
Taking a decision for someone you know, like or love can also be taken again provided that the person is comfortable with your decision and if you want to surprise that person then please go ahead, but try as much as you can to take decisions positively for people and for yourself.....